Men often get confused when their girlfriend gets angry with them. Oh man, why is it so difficult to cheer up a distant girlfriend? Why is it so difficult to understand what a woman wants? How to deal with their angry girlfriend? The answer is simple.
A man looks at the surface of the problem and immediately starts thinking about what he did wrong and how he will rectify the situation. Instead of focusing on his girlfriend, he thinks about himself. And in this process of self-assessment, he ignores the plight of his girlfriend. He worries about what his woman would like and what would satisfy her.
You only keep throwing arrows in the darkness.
First, we will find out when a woman is angry with someone what thoughts come to her mind.
Don’t you like to know?
Here are some examples to give you an idea.
I think he doesn’t love me anymore, or maybe he never loved me enough.
He has changed. He is not the same as he was at the beginning of the relationship.
Earlier, he used to be after me all the time. Now he doesn’t care about me. He takes me for granted.
I am so stupid to trust him so much.
He did not even come to conciliate/ calm me down.
I have no value in his life.
He could have at least said sorry.
It doesn’t even matter for him whether I am in his life.
Once I disconnected his call, he did not even call me back (and the woman cries).
Let him come now, I will teach him a lesson by not talking to him ever.
I will never forgive him.
While thinking all these negative stuff, she is visualizing the past moments.
When you proposed to her, loved her, or gave her a loving & warm hug, or took care of her. (A loving memory)
All those moments when you broke her trust. (a hurtful memory)
When you appreciated her for any of your achievement. (a loving memory)
The way you said sorry for her last time, maybe by holding your ears or giving flowers. (Making her cry more)
She keeps on looking at her phone, again and again, thinking that she might have missed your call. (Already missing you and waiting for you)
Here you can see all she is thinking about is what her place in your life is. She only needs your attention and care. Men think differently than women. If a man gets angry, he wants to be alone. He needs some space to collect himself. But a woman wants her man’s attention. She wants him to pamper her. She needs him to love her.
So let’s go through some points that will help you deal with your angry girlfriend.
Be a good listener
Listen calmly to what she wants to speak. Whether she is shouting at you or she is blaming you for something; be calm and listen to her. Don’t interrupt or try to talk back. Only listen. Let her throw all her anger out. A woman never likes if a man doesn’t listen to her when she opens up her heart and talks. Show her you care for her by listening to her attentively.
Don’t start giving solutions
Always remember your woman needs to release her anger, energy and her emotions. That’s why she is speaking, shouting or screaming at you. Avoid argument in such situations. Don’t try to solve the problem immediately at this heated moment. Let her be calm first. Support her views.
Keep the phone or any other interruption away
It is quite difficult to not to react when she is saying something wrong. When you deal with your angry girlfriend, keep the distractions away when your woman is talking to you. Give your attention to her.
Keep looking into her eyes
Again, it is really tough to look into your woman’s eyes when she is angry or crying. But do it. Keep eye contact with her. She will calm down faster when she sees that loving look in your eyes. Women are quick to feel that love.
Give her a hug
Whenever a girl is angry, she needs to feel your loving touch. So give her a deep hug and a light kiss on the forehead. These are very loving gestures to pacify your woman. Whisper in her ears you are sorry that she is so hurt and you love her the most.
Tell her you didn’t know that your actions would hurt her so much. She might feel like crying or screaming when she is angry. Don’t blindly fall for her actions. She does not mean everything that she says. Try to look for the pain in her voice and her eyes. For a woman, screaming is just a way of expressing the pain that she feels in her heart.
Take her out on a dinner or coffee date
Offer her the favourite food if she hasn’t had food. Some women get angrier if they are hungry. It is what I call a HANGRY girlfriend. And trust me, this is one of the worst moments of getting into an argument. Eating is also a way to calm her emotions in a moment. But ask her before doing so. If she denies, then request her and tell her it will make you feel good if she would eat.
Or, if possible, take her to her favourite place. Say little about your feelings on the fight while she is eating. Talk more about the food. For example, how does she like the food? Is it good? And so on. Even if she is not hungry, offer her ice cream or coffee, or anything she loves to eat.
Have a chit chat
Have a light chit-chat with her. Start with how gorgeous she is looking at the moment or complement the colour of her dress. Take her attention away from the fight to her clothes, her jewellery or her hair. Tell her how amazing she is and how much you love her. Express her how precious she is in your life and how much you value her emotions or her concerns. Once again, it’s a gentle reminder as to avoid the topic of the fight. Only make her realize you love her.
Don’t give up
Many men do this mistake. They give up too soon. Have courage and never give up; keep on doing efforts to make her comfortable. If she refuses to talk, even then try to initiate a small talk now and then. Don’t go away if she asked you to do so; stay nearby.
If she is hyper, then don’t talk about anything. Give some time, but tell her you are not leaving her in such an emotional condition. A woman never likes when her man doesn’t have that much courage to be with her or face her when she is emotionally overwhelmed.
If you leave her side, she will be more hurt. If you stay there, she might scream at you and force you to leave, but somewhere inside her, she doesn’t want to be alone. She will appreciate this behaviour later.
Apologize to her
You may feel you are not wrong, but from your girlfriend’s perspective, she might feel hurt. So apologize sincerely. Keep your anger at bay and realize her emotions.
Women are like waves. They reach the peak of their emotions instantly, but they also calm down soon. Their anger is momentary. So it’s not very difficult to deal with your angry girlfriend. In such a situation, be with her, calm her down and make her feel special. You don’t have to understand her; only love her. She doesn’t need to be understood; she desires your love.
Love and affection are the things that keep a woman happy. Make her laugh on petty matters. Praise her, adore her beauty, appreciate her intelligence. Appreciate her for everything that she does for you. A woman never tires of hearing admiration. Give her compliments now and then.
Men and women speak in different ways and have their perspective to see things. But they have to live together, so they must respect each other’s views to live a happy life and to have a healthy relationship. Love your partner unconditionally. Apologizing in such disputes won’t hurt you, but help you bond together.
It could be challenging to deal with an angry girlfriend. I hope this article could help you guys to decide what you should do. Remember whatever you do, just keep one thought in your mind that ‘Do you want this woman in your life?’. If your answer is yes, then do anything to soothe her and make her happy. Do not give up on her.
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