10 Deceiving lies that you tell yourself

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Have you ever wondered as to why even after putting so many efforts you fail to succeed?
Because of lies, you keep on telling yourself. Lies, which you believe to be the truth, where actually they are not. Lies, what people keep feeding to your mind.

All those stories in your brain are almost 50% lie. Those recollected incidents either never happened or happened in quite a different manner. Half of your truths are in fact lies. If you really want to be successful, stop telling these below lies to yourself.

1. “You will be successful at any particular task for sure”

You think you did everything right to achieve something, yet failed due to some uncontrollable reasons.” Where in deep down of your heart you believe it can’t be done because you haven’t tried hard enough; because you failed to put enough efforts; you failed to evaluate the reality of your efforts. You make yourself believe “I did whatever I could do.”

But the fact is that deep down inside, you know that you didn’t give your full effort as you could. You became lazy or exhausted yourself with overthinking or got obsessed about the results. While you were busy thinking about the result, questioning yourself whether you will be successful or not, you compromised on your performance.

Still, want yourself to believe that you did your best? The truth is that you lost track somewhere, you got distracted with the questions in your mind. You wasted your precious time on thinking pointless possibilities. This lie will prevent you from learning from your failure and put you up for another failure.

2. “Believing everything that others say to you”

People also play a major role in your life. They tell you what they believe is the truth, which is not necessarily always true. It all depends upon the perception. Someone’s ugly can be someone’s beautiful. Someone’s junk can be someone’s most precious collector’s item. If someone says something is impossible doesn’t mean that you can’t make it possible.

It seems easy to believe what someone says and painstaking to check for authenticity. Don’t put blind faith in others. Make efforts to find out the truth for yourself. Use your own senses to understand something. Every record can be broken. Impossible can be made possible. Don’t let others opinion overpower you.

3. “You know everything”

Think twice. Is it really true? This attitude will destroy your potential to learn anything new. No matter how much you have read or studied, something will always be left. Keep your mind open to accept the very truth that you can’t know each and everything.

Always keep a learner’s attitude. Be like an empty sponge, be ready to absorb anything new. When you keep learning, you keep growing. The sky is the limit for you. However, when you stop learning, your growth stops.

4. “You know what you are doing”

You may be wise enough to realize what you are doing, yet there is no harm in taking note of other people’s experience who has done something similar in their lives without being judgmental. Experienced people can help you to make a mind map, which can be crucial for your success.

You can prepare to handle something new lying on your path. You may come to know something, which you have never known earlier. Our experiences teach us a new perspective on a problem. A problem can be solved in ‘n’ number of ways.

You might know one method for solving the problem. But an experienced person might know a couple of other methods and some of them might be a better solution to your problem.

5. “Your thoughts belong to you”

It may not be true. You perceive things from your environment during childhood that develops your personality. That personality may not be you. You may be something different but your surroundings make you believe that you’re what you have become.

Discover your true self without being biased.Do meditation practice (Read article “Meditation for beginners” to start). Find out about your likes, dislikes, your fears, and emotions; from where they developed.

Focus more on the true version of yourself. Self-introspection can be indispensable to explore more about yourself.

6. “Someone will hold you, guide you and protect you”

It’s a lie. If you want to achieve something you have to have that strength to move ahead no matter how many barriers you will meet on your way. You have to hold yourself tight and high. You have to find your own path. You have to protect yourself.

It may be possible when you’re looking for someone to save you, while that someone else is looking at you with the same expectation. You have to take your own responsibility. You have to live on your own. You may have people in your life who love you, support you, but you have to act on your own.

Actions and decisions will have to be taken by you; you have to make difficult choices. No one else can do your part.

7. “You know who you are and what you are”

The truth is that you know about yourself what others have told you since your childhood. You perceive yourself with other people’s eyes and opinions. Sometimes, you even mold other’s opinions according to your convenience. Yet you think you know yourself.

If someone tells you that you are brilliant or fool you happen to think that you are. If someone says you’re beautiful or ugly, you believe those words and think that’s what you’re. You believe those labels given by people whereas you know nothing about yourself. You get lost in what others say about you and start creating your own image in your mind accordingly.

If you are brilliant and you know it then you don’t need people’s approval. Stop boosting your ego with what others have to say about you. You may lose your focus from your efforts to your skills or qualities. Always remember your qualities are useless if you don’t perform well or you don’t use them properly when it’s needed.

If someone tells you that you are not intelligent or skillful or many other things that you’re not, don’t just pay heed to what they say. Find out your best qualities, sharpen them and move forward in life. Don’t let others tell you what you are.

8. “You know what you want in life”

You watch a movie of an athlete who wins against all odds and all of a sudden you want to become an athlete. You watch someone doing something which inspires you to become something. Because you happen to believe that those achievements made someone happy, eventually these will make you happy too. You think you want that but the truth is that your surroundings make you believe that that’s your dream. It’s not you who decide what you want.

If you want to know what actually you want then explore your childhood again. What was that one thing you wanted to do in your life when you were a child when your views were unaffected from others? What was it that you were best at? Undo whatever you have learnt and seen around you that affected your opinions and decisions.

Then you will discover some truth about yourself, your true desires, your qualities. Don’t let others achievements affect your decision while you choose what you want to achieve.

9. “If you will get something particular, you will be happy”

Happiness has nothing to do with materialistic. It’s inside you. You must have a happy attitude. That’s it. Everything will seem easy then. Stop feeding this lie, that “if you find your dream man or girl, you will be happy or if you will have plenty of money then you will be happy.”

If you don’t appreciate what you have right now then there’s some problem with your attitude. The art of gratitude is necessary for the law of attraction. Be grateful for your present, be happy with what you have at this moment. Happiness is internal, not external.

Don’t be dependent on outside outcomes for your happiness. Happiness resides inside you, it’s up to you whether you choose to be happy or not. You have the power to choose.

10. “Your failure was someone else’s fault”

This is a blunder everyone does. This attitude keeps you away from your dreams. You blame others and don’t work on your weaknesses. You focus on others rather than yourself.

Take responsibility for your actions. Accept the failure as yours like you accept your achievements. YOU failed at something. You must have done something wrong or forgot to take measures to succeed.

Failures are not failures, but lessons. Try to learn from your failures and move ahead in life.

These are some small lies, which unfortunately you’re telling yourself every day. These lies may blind your vision to see the truth. Be truthful with yourself. There won’t be anything which you can’t achieve. While that chatter is happening in your brain where you’re trying to justify your actions, you’re feeding your subconscious with all sorts of lies.

These lies affect your decisions adversely and deprive you of success. Sooner you understand this, the better it will be for you. If you think there’s something more to your life then meditate and find out what are those lies you keep on telling yourself.

Do share with me if you think I have left anything here.

Procrastinating these small things can cost you big success

How many of us want to transform our lives and are ready to do anything to achieve that? Yet many of us fail. Sigh! Every successful person follows these, while most people ignore. The reason behind this is that we believe that to transform our lives, we have to bring about major changes in our lifestyle, which is a daunting task in itself. To change old habits, to change lifestyle, to change circumstances, these are the most difficult ones.

While focusing on these major changes we ignore the small ones, which are a must for our lives and can affect adversely if neglected. Yet, we mostly keep on deferring most of these activities for tomorrow as we are busy doing big things. If you can incorporate these tiny steps in your routine life, they can truly transform you.

1. Exercise daily

It’s the smallest thing, but most fundamental for our lives to keep our body healthy. The human body is not meant to lead a sedentary lifestyle & munching snacks; rather it is meant for locomotion. Whatever big thing you are running after, a healthy body is essential to achieve it and later enjoy it. Yet most of us keep on postponing it.

You are so tired of your routine that you end up saying, “I will start doing exercise from tomorrow.” and that tomorrow never comes. This small change in your perspective can keep you healthy in the long run. If half an hour every day from 24 hrs can keep you healthy and strong then why delay it? And if you still feel that it’s impossible to do, then you will have to invest much more time and money at a later date.

2. Making the right food choices

It seems daunting and complicated at first but it’s the easiest one. Because you eat at least 5 times a day, 3 meals and 2 snacks. You just have to choose between wrong and right food for your body. A choice can be made within a minute. Five minutes in 24 hours can be spared easily? What do you think?

Choose what’s best for your body instead of junk food. Learn about your body intelligence. Explore about your body and you will know what to eat and whatnot. You don’t have to spend days searching for healthy recipes.

Understand what’s best for you, not what others suggest as healthy options. Make the right food choices. You’re anyways making these choices every day, you just have to be little conscious to make the right ones.

3. A bit of relaxation

Small breaks for relaxation won’t harm you rather it will increase your productivity. While running throughout the day, you have to be on your toes. This continues stress can harm your body and mind. Find out which relaxation technique is best for you. For me, silent sitting for 10 minutes or a small green tea break works best, which I can do anywhere in the office or a coffee shop.

Instead of crying later about how stressful lifestyle or work affected your health, make use of relaxation techniques. keep your phone away while doing so. Don’t hop from one task to another. You will see its benefits in the long run.

4. Sound sleep

Most of the people are aware of the health effects of sound sleep, still, some choose to be ignorant. You need at least 6-8 hours of sleep every day. During sleep, our body repairs the wear and tear of body organs, which happens during the daily activities.

If you don’t sleep for enough hours, then these repairs can’t be done. In the long run, it causes serious problems. So get sound sleep, leave the TV screen, no matter how much you were longing to see that TV series or movie, which is live on the TV. Leave your laptops, mobiles, social media or work. Those are your sleeping hours. Do it for the sake of your body.

Nothing can be more important than your health, not even your temptation to watch the screens. Understand these temptations for staying awake are harmful to your health.

Prepare your body before sleeping hours.
If you sleep at 10 pm, then have your last meal at 8 pm.
No liquids before bed. No caffeine after 7 pm. I personally don’t take caffeine at all, because it spoils my sleep. Also, keep in mind that it’s easier to sleep five more minutes by sleeping early than snoozing that alarm in the morning.

5. Keeping your room and office table clutter-free

How many of you have the habit to take things out of cupboards, boxes or drawers and leaving them wherever you last used them? Change this habit immediately. It won’t take more than a minute to keep things back at their place after use. If you have taken scissors out of the drawer, keep it back at its place. Later when you need them, you won’t have to search for it or remember where did you use it last time.

Do it with everything, file, stationary, earphones, books, etc. This will help you to stay in a clutter-free space, which will save you plenty of time and energy spent on searching for things around. It helps you think rationally without disruption as well.

6. Finishing tasks which can be done in 2 minutes

There are many small things in our daily routine, which can be done within 2 minutes. For example, putting eggs to boil or put the electric kettle on to boil water for oats before shower in the morning, so that you can get a healthy breakfast after you get ready (Otherwise you may suffice with Starbucks coffee and would spend a fortune on a fancy but unhealthy breakfast).

Keeping things in its place after use. Put dirty clothes in the laundry after the change, instead of throwing them around in the room. Make your bed immediately after getting up. There are many more. Find out according to your lifestyle and make sure you do them right away, instead of making a mountain of pending work or household chores.

7. Self-introspection

We talk the most with ourselves. But we don’t spend much time in self inception rather babble. Self-introspection can help you evaluate whatever you do during the day. You can find out easily where you are lacking and what you have achieved so far. You can know yourself better through introspection. You come to know about your strengths and your weaknesses.

When you understand yourself well, it becomes easier for you to make choices for day-to-day activities. It helps you to be what you are, not to run after what you aren’t. You come to know that makes you happy. You understand your desires, dreams, reality and so on.

Self-introspection is like looking into the mirror. You get to know where you need to work the most to get a better version of yourself. These 10 minutes can really show you the path to success.

8. Implementing automation in place to make daily activities easier

In today’s digital world, you can use automated methods to make your work easy and save you a lot of time in repetition. To implement these automation methods in place requires little time at first, but most of us make an excuse for not having time to do it.

Take some time out of your daily routine and do it. Because you will get some extra hours and extra energy after you set the automation system in place, which you can utilize on something of more importance.

9. Picking out your next day clothing the night before

Are you one of them who struggles with your clothing every morning? Then make sure that your wardrobe is clutter-free and decide in advance what you are going to wear the next day. This will save you from morning frustration that you get (and may carry for the rest of the day) when you’re unable to choose what to wear.

10. Scheduling the activities

Schedule your activities in advance. It helps you stay active without obstacle. You won’t be at work when you have to be with your kids at their sports day.

Scheduling helps you to keep yourself ahead of time, and you save energy, which is otherwise spent on small decision-making matters. Also, you won’t forget things. Use reminders if you forget things occasionally.

These above seems very small things, but leave big impacts on your life. Do them and you will be thankful to yourself in the future for doing so. This saying fits here properly ‘we see what we want to see’.

When we look at a successful person, we want to know how they succeeded. While searching for the answer we believe that they must be doing something substantial to succeed. This illusion doesn’t let us see that these successful people do small things which make a difference in the distant future. They do things differently and now is your time to change your perspective towards your daily tasks.

What are those small things which benefited you in the long run? Do share with us.